Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Fear of “No” and getting back to my core values

Since my first two clients, I have not gotten any new ones, and have been turned down twice. I know there are tons of things I can do about it, but can’t seem to get it all done. Lately I feel like I have been spinning my wheels and BUSY instead of PRODUCTIVE. I’m doing a lot, but nothing that is focused and efficient in reaching out to prospective clients. I know I need clients, and I know it so much that I feel I am wearing it on my face. As my finances dwindle, I start feeling desperate, which is the last thing I want to be.

I’m hustling, but it’s not working. What’s going on with me? I realized that I’m still afraid of people saying no to me, so afraid that I don’t put myself out there unless someone reaches out to me first about fitness. And even then, if they say, “I don’t know if I can afford a trainer,” or “I don’t want a trainer right now” then I back off right away. And that is what is not working. I know I need to shift, but I don’t know which gear to shift into.

And then I remembered – it’s not about me trying to convince people to hire me, it’s about authentically wanting to help people lead happier and healthier lives. I know that I have the capacity to help people and I am getting better at it everyday. There are people out there that will welcome my assistance and will be the better for it. I need to be brave, keep meeting people, and put myself out there so they can see what’s possible. And that’s the gear I need to stay in to help me through this lean time.

1 comment:

  1. Dear Ginaville,
    How are you doing? Hope all is ok with you.
    Congrats for your accounts. They are really sincere and full of involving enthusiasm :-)))).
    In our lives there's always a continuos and quick dance of rites of passage.
    A rite of passage, which marks a time when a person reaches a new and significant change in his/her life, is something that nearly all societies recognize and often hold "ceremonies" for. These "ceremonies" are held to observe a person's entry into a new stage of life. There'll be "pain" , "life crisis" , "joy" that are pedagogical tools in the rite of passage and but also a pathway toward our future, stepping stones who you/we must pass throughout their life to gain acceptance and respect in society
    You'll become stronger and straight to the point.
    Don't give up and you'll have what you want.
    Your friend,
    Antonio

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